Punching and Kicking Friends

By Armughan Naeem Khan.

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It has practically become an established part of our culture that wherever friends, relatives, colleagues or work fellows meet up, what promptly follows greetings exchange is criticism of government and rulers. What we usually see is criticism starting off in a mild way, going bitter in a while and turning into a collective ruler-abusing session. Things can heat up to any drastic level. If someone in the gathering attempts to protect the rulers in whatsoever way, out of political affiliation or any other reason, such a person finds all the guns turned to him, with him being labeled as Chamcha or Boot Licker or such lavish, splendid vocabulary.

So this way a meeting meant to be a good gathering of friends for pleasant chit chat turns into a forum of endless discussion with every person trying hard to prove his point and every other person trying more hard not to buy that point. Everyone attempts to vent off frustration boiling within. By the end the friends depart even more frustrated and charged let alone friendly chit chat and catching up on old days, all this to absolutely no use since none of the abuse hurled in the meeting is least likely to be ever heard by any of the rulers.Why I say there is no use of such discussion is for another reason too! If you are pro rulers, you would stand firm that whatever rulers are doing is absolutely fine and things are going perfect. You would take all the pain to prove that how efficiently the great rulers have packed away evils like poverty and the country is a mere step away from being a super power. Precisely, you would be speaking the rulers’ language.

And if God forbid you bear anti-rulers ideas, you would most certainly disprove of every step rulers took, including the good things. You would undertake your part of venture in drawing conclusions about corruption, poor governance, bad law and order, unemployment, poverty so on and so forth. While doing so you would probably attribute every evil onto the rulers, irrespective whether they are responsible for that or not. To prove your point you might argue that lack of rainfall is a rulers’ failure too. Whereas, in my whatever little possessed understanding, such things are more suited to fall into nature’s domain where the rulers have almost no ingress. I may be totally true but whose believing me??

Going such discussions bizarre is not uncommon. As a nation, patience and tolerance is always in short stock with us. Lack of patience and intolerance added with a pinch of rigidity further churned with hatred turns into the most demonizing potion. So one would witness nothing but volleys of allegations and counter allegations being thrown at each other, to no avail at all. Discussions on political issues are usually endless and pointless, quite often turning into hot arguments with friends and relatives hurling indecencies and accusing each other of disloyalty and lacking futuristic political vision.

Widespread social media tools have added more poison to this hate mongering process. When I am typing stern remarks on my smartphone or laptop while sitting in the privacy of my house or office, what I don’t exactly keep in mind is that once I posted my comments they would no longer be private. Similarly, when I get flared up upon reading someone else’s views and get down to post a befitting reply I lose sight of the fact that whatever hundred, two hundred or even more privy people are going to read whatever I post. Soon a series of comments and rebuttals start in a way that the people posting comments make a laughing stock of themselves, for no use at all.

Friends, relatives and associates are one’s asset for life. It’s really hard to make good friends but it’s easy to lose them. All you have to do is hurt a friend and you will have a friend no more. Breaking a friendship is just like shattering a glass. Once shattered you cannot fix it back, even if you do, you can never make the cracks vanish. From no angle or definition, I find losing a friend over a non-sense political argument a wise thing to do. My religious beliefs would still be impeccable and I don’t have to be labeled “gustakh I rasool” or infidel if I disagree to the fanatic views of a religio-politician. It beats me how blind support of some politician whom you never and will never ever meet in your life reaches out to so far an extent that you put your friendships on the line. Let’s not do that. Let’s never forget that our friends are the best people in our lives. Let us not get some lousy politician in between us and our friends. God bless our friends!!!!!!!!

Armughan Naeem Khan, Blogger with theweeklypakistan.comThe writer is a seasoned writer, poet, lyricist and analyst.

He can be contacted through email: armughannaeemkhan@yahoo.com or Twitter @armughannaeemkhan

9 thoughts on “Punching and Kicking Friends

  • June 7, 2016 at 7:03 pm
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    Very well written article..This is exactly what is happening all around us!

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  • June 7, 2016 at 7:36 pm
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    Very well written article. A true portrait of our current social gatherings and negative approach. Beautifully chosen words by Armughan Naeem explains it well how we can eradicate this prevailing culture of hat speeches.

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  • June 7, 2016 at 8:31 pm
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    Well written and close to reality. ..

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  • June 7, 2016 at 9:48 pm
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    An interesting sociopolitical angle that not many people take into account. I have one query, are friends that can be lost to political affiliations / rivalries worth keeping? I feel that political discussion & differences are very healthy, what we need to understand is the limit that everyone needs to define. We are all entitled to an opinion & that is it.

    An amazingly thought provoking article that covers a very important ongoing problem of our society, well done to the author.

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  • June 8, 2016 at 2:09 pm
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    When we say there shud b sumthing different for the reader ,this particular piece of writing is the best example one could give .

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  • June 8, 2016 at 5:53 pm
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    A very well written article that highlights an important social behaviour in our society. To win an argument, we sometimes loose a friend. It is very unwise. Moreover, we all can contribute to positive changes in whatever capacity we are. The article exactly points to that direction. A very good write up. Let’s be part of positive change.

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  • June 19, 2016 at 11:21 am
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    Must say a true depiction of our society. As a human we should make our role to turn this negative thing into positive one…!

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  • June 26, 2016 at 1:30 pm
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    Sir you have written a very well article which highlights and define the reality of our social behaviour and life..

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  • June 26, 2016 at 5:39 pm
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    Sir a well written article.
    Beautifully chosen words.
    Keep writing.

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