By Dr. Afshan Ahmed.
People from all over the world have a common desire of being happy and keep moving in different directions to reach their happiness but worries (false emotions) can deprive of many opportunities to be happy. Don’t let all those worries and negativity take over your happiness.
On a cloudy day, the clouds hide the sun, but the sun is always there on the sky. Happiness is like the sun, it is often hidden by the clouds of worries. You have to scatter and dissolve the clouds – your thoughts and worries, so you can experience happiness.
Worry does nothing but steal your happiness and keep you very busy doing nothing. You don’t have to create happiness, because though you may not believe it, it is part of your essence, but is just hidden. All you have to do is calm down your mind and feelings, because when there is a quiet mind and inner peace, happiness emerges from within you.
Happiness is not something far away and unattainable and does not depend on circumstances, objects or events. It is an inseparable part of your consciousness, of your essence, and comes out when your mind is free from disturbing and constant thinking.
The mind is always in a constant race from one worry to another. It constantly moves from one object or task to another, never standing still. This restlessness hides the happiness that is within you in the same way that a choppy sea hides the bottom of the sea. When the sea gets calm you can see the bottom. In the same way, when the mind gets quiet you experience the happiness that is within you.
You can experience more happiness in your life by calming down your mind. When you feel happy, stop for a moment and watch the state of your mind. You will be surprised to discover that it is calm, and there are almost no thoughts in your mind. Since the mind is not accustomed to stay in this peaceful state for long, it soon becomes active again, and the sense of happiness disappears.
Inner peace and happiness are interconnected. You want more happiness? Learn to calm your mind – make it less restless. Happiness is inherent in our souls; it is not something to be gained a new. All that is necessary to do is to uncover it. It sounds complicated but it is not impossible.
If you can disperse the thoughts and worries that fill your mind, you will experience this inherent happiness. You can do so by any means that slows down the incessant flow of thoughts and chatter in your mind. This could be:
By immersing yourself in something you love doing
Taking a walk in the green fields before sunset
Doing some spiritual activity
Learning to focus your mind
Helping some needy people
Doing some charity
Involving in some healthy activity by meditation and still there are many other activities of interest.
Another factor leading to experience happiness is emotional detachment. What you need to do is strive not to allow your feelings get upset by your memories, people or events. This might seem difficult to do, but it is not. Emotional detachment enables you to keep away from taking things too personally or becoming upset by what people do or say. This helps you stay balanced and calm, and this brings happiness to the surface. When you spend much time in your day thinking about what other people have and do and you compare your life to theirs then you have a good recipe for unhappiness.
So try to focus on you. Compare yourself to yourself. See how far you have come. The obstacles you have overcome. How you have improved in small or sometimes bigger ways. Appreciate that and yourself and raise your self-confidence.
Worry is a great destroyer of happiness. It is a totally unproductive thing to do, and yet most of us engage in it with great enthusiasm. I’m always amused when I hear things like ‘is this something we should worry about?’ or ‘What should we really be worrying about?’ The answer, of course, is that we shouldn’t be worrying about anything – there is always a better option.
It’s very common for people to blame their unhappiness on the outside world – other people, circumstances, the government, etc.– without ever realizing that the problems, and their solutions, lie within. Happiness lies within you, it is a choice, a decision, to be happy not. You are pulling your own strings; you can choose what to think and how to act. Make a commitment to being happy – it’s the most important work of your life! So don’t worry and be happy.
Writer is Pharmacist by education and writes on social and health issues.