By Zara Mansoor.
Every time we hear “forgive others”, How often have we gone through the scheme of hearing “ just forgive” like it is only a matter of words, in fact, it is NOT. It is a matter of emotions, feelings, trust which we once had, and now it is all gone like it was nothing, feelings were nothing, like we were nothing. Is it that easy to survive after all those dreadful incidents which we have faced at some point in life?
It’s something which we must be told to do, a habit which we have to develop. Most people consider forgiveness like it’s just something we can do automatically, like turning on a light switch. If it were that simple, we would probably just do it. Forgiveness is a time-consuming process. It is more than just a word. Many religions decree that it is mandatory to forgive others to be considered as a good person. It is just to motivate us to reduce our anger, rancour by forgiving others. It is not good to become a vindictive person; all it can do is to create life-long problems.
Some people may use forgiveness as a weapon to guilt us into forgiveness. Maintaining that, withholding forgiveness makes us a bad person, or that we might never emotionally heal. The reality is that in order to forgive others we must work through our feelings first and whether we are able to forgive or not, doesn’t determine the kind of person we are. Forgiving is not that easy. It is messy and painful. It is not comfortable but some of the actions which nourish our soul take a little effort.
From my point of view, pardon is something we want to do, yet we struggle with it because of our emotions.
Steps should be taken by us to work through the feelings standing in the way to forgive in order to achieve closure, peace and to make the world a better place. Forgiveness might be a tough pill to swallow but it creates ever-lasting ripples.
Zara Mansoor is student of media studies in Islamabad. She is an article writer and a blogger too.